In my experience, once you become an honest to goodness grown up, praise and general ‘good-job’ type comments are pretty thin on the ground. Which is OK; I’m as uncomfortable with being congratulated or given any kind of accolade and the next person (who is pretty bloody uncomfortable with it, believe me). A mixture of not being used to it and finding it deeply unnerving and uncomfortable, I suppose.
But I want to take a minute to praise the grown up Thank You note.
This is the cork board in my kitchen. A mixture of pretty things, kid things, things to remember, and also the home of two little letters. One was written to me by the mother of a boy I taught two years ago. She took a minute to pen for me her thanks, her appreciation of the time that I had taken to listen to him and to make him feel appreciated.
The other note was given to my husband last year by a young engineer that he mentored, once again thanking him for just taking time.
As adults, we are rarely thanked or told we are appreciated. We all just get the heck on with life. But it is something special to occasionally be told that what we do, matters.
So if you have ever thought of telling someone that you appreciate them; either something specific that they have done or just them in general then maybe it’s time to write it down.
The grown up who really feels that they can get on perfectly well without validation or approval or any of that crap thank you very much might just find that they appreciate it far more than they realised they would.